I didn’t get a head start in life. My father sexually abused me from age 12 – 19, forced me to play the role of his wife, beat me, raped me, and even shared me with others. I didn’t know how to handle the pain, shame, and false sense of guilt from those years of abuse. Life was, at times, almost not worth living. And, I considered ending it.
I met my husband Mack when I was 19. He was my knight in a shiny Camaro. He gave me the courage and support to escape, and I didn’t look back. I left behind the father who had abused me, and I left behind my mother who blamed me for it all. I left with a couple of pillow cases stuffed with my clothes and a determination that my past wasn’t going to hold me back. I didn’t really know how to deal with what happened to me, so I did the best I could at the time. I locked seven years of my life up behind a closed door in my heart. And then, I threw away the key. Mark Twain said, “The two greatest days in your life are the day you are born and the day you discover why.” Thirteen years after leaving home I discovered my “why” and answered God’s calling on my life when I shared my story publicly for the first time.
Today, I help women maximize their potential in life and leadership to become the women God created them to be. Through my years of writing, speaking, teaching, coaching, and training, I realized there are many women like me, ready to step into the role God created for them and live an abundant life, but not sure how. Women are often held back because they don’t know how to increase their influence, overcome self-limiting beliefs, increase self confidence, develop leadership skills, and maximize their potential to do more, have more, and be more. I know there are women who, like me, don’t know how to overcome a past hurt or a present obstacle constructively. We don’t always know how to overcome issues like shame, self doubt, lack of self-worth, limiting beliefs, lack of confidence, or lack of influence with others. We often simply aren’t equipped to do so. So, we turn to behaviors that don’t serve us such as: shutting people out to protect ourselves from feeling vulnerable, over exercising to increase a sense of control, over eating to feel good, or not taking opportunities because we are afraid of failing.
I struggled at times with all of the above and more, and that’s where my passion was ignited to help others overcome as I have. Today, I speak, teach, and write on foundational principles and tools of transformation that help women to:
- Maximize their potential in life and leadership.
- Develop 360 degrees of influence personally and professionally.
- Develop self confidence, self worth, and resilience.
- Overcome adversity, shame, and limiting beliefs.
- Achieve balance in all dimensions of life.
Although I share from a woman’s perspective, men are absolutely welcome too!